Eliminate your fear of rejection and you will suddenly have a much more peaceful life. Just think about it for a minute –
What would your life look like if you were free from worrying about the opinions of others? What if seeking the approval of other people failed to enter your mind? How would it change your life?
We can sometimes get to caught up worrying about being rejected by others. The rejection can be about how we look, where we live, what choices we make – it doesn’t matter. Whatever we do, and no matter is it is good or bad, someone is going to disagree with it somewhere. If we allow it, fear of rejection holds us back in so many ways and limits our ability to experience the positive aspects of life.
If you want to be more comfortable in your thoughts, and not feel like you have to please others, I’d like to offer these points for your consideration:
Like attracts like, and just like other things, rejection is largely a self-fulfilling prophecy. When you’re constantly worried about rejection, it changes the way you act. You become anxious and defensive. Those actions may cause you to attract negativity causing you to be rejected by others. Consider how this fear is affecting your behavior. Are you acting in a way that is attracting rejection?
Where your thoughts reside, there your actions follow. Focus on how you want to feel. Most people focus on how they don’t want to feel, but they haven’t considered how they want to feel. It’s hard to accomplish something positive if you’re unsure of what you want. Choose how you want to feel in a situation that’s currently giving you trouble. Take actions that will bring you the positive feelings you want.
Use your imagination in a way that serves you well. We often look ahead to those challenging circumstances and imagine the worst possible outcome. This only adds stress to the situation and we’ve doomed ourselves to failure. See yourself as successful instead. Imagine being confident, relaxed, and carefree. If you do this enough times, it will become habitual. Your imagination has probably been programming you in a negative way up to this point. Put it to work in a way that is helpful rather than harmful.
Rejection usually isn’t about you. Ask yourself, what does rejection really mean? Suppose a child finds a gold nugget lying on the ground. The child doesn’t know what it is, so he just tosses it into the dirt. That doesn’t mean the nugget is worthless, but just that the person making the judgment is ignorant of its value. Many successful people were rejected at one time or another. A theater professor told Harrison Ford that he would never be a successful actor. The University of Evansville put out a scouting report on Larry Bird that stated he would, “Never play Division I basketball.” Record companies even rejected the Beatles.
Watch out for your own personal limiting beliefs. What if all of your beliefs were true? You might be a billionaire and married to a supermodel, or you may be living the worse nightmare imaginable. We all have false beliefs. These beliefs are highly limiting and steer you in a negative direction far more often than you realize. Question your beliefs and ask them what message they are trying to fulfill.
Rejection can be one of the worst feelings in the world. But remember that you have total control about how you react to rejection. You can believe it, or you can reject it yourself. It’s important to keep in mind that rejection frequently has more to do with the person doing the rejecting than the one receiving it. Learn to accept yourself. You know you are awesome. Don’t let anyone convince you otherwise.
Find your purpose – find your joy!
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Did you find a few more ideas of your own? If so, I’d love to hear about them in the comments, and as always please reach out with your thoughts.