Do you genuinely feel a sense of serenity on a regular basis – or does it seem like feelings of anxiety in nearly all aspects of life have become the status quo? If you said no, you’re not alone. Most people aren’t able to enjoy feelings of calmness and peace on a regular basis.
Everyone feels this way from time to time. My business, Serenities Now LLC, is all about helping you find a more peaceful life. Serenity is within reach, but it’s not a always quick to arrive. You need to develop the habits and practices that will give you that peaceful life you are seeking. By implementing effective habits, feelings of constant anxiety in your life can become a thing of the past.
Take personal control over your life. As much as it seems it would make life easier, you can’t control others. Everyone was born with the freedom of choice, and how they use it is up to them. Your own response is the only thing completely under your control.
While there is no set blueprint guaranteeing a peaceful life, here are some suggestions you may want to add to your toolbox.
Create a calming morning ritual
Getting up early is important. Don’t you just love a lazy morning that allows you I to stay in bed as long as possible. It can be an easy habit to develop, but not necessarily a good one. When it becomes the routine, it often results in rushing around and relying on luck to get out of the house on time. If one event takes you off course, you’ll be late.
Get up early enough that you’re not rushed in the morning. Exercise a little bit. Meditate. Spend time with your Creator. If you enjoy the outdoors, take a walk around the block.
Early mornings tend to be quiet and peaceful, and if you get up early, you can enjoy them.
Stress is not your friend
Notice how you respond to stress. When you’re faced with a stressful situation, take note of your behavior.
Do you feel overwhelmed by stress? Sometimes we can get into analysis paralysis just trying to figure out why we are stressed and how to get past it. It keeps us from moving on in our life, causing more stres. Can you relate?
Do you overeat (or not eat at all)? When our eating habits are disrupted, our bodies are unhappy. This can make you more susceptible to additional stress and even illness.
Do you work to eliminate the stress? Is your job a way to avoid addressing the real issues going on? Maybe it’s not your job – maybe it’s housework or volunteer work. If you are doing it to avoid the cause of the stress, it will be more stressful in the long run.
Do you find some way to distract yourself to avoid the situation? Gaming, alcohol, shopping – these are all things that tend to get our of hand if we are using them top distract ourselves from the truth.
What’s the solution? Create healthier responses to stress. Replace unhealthy responses with something more peaceful. Maybe a cup of tea, some deep breathing, or a few minutes of yoga would work for you. Calling a friend might be another option. Once you feel calmer, constructively look for the root cause of your stress and then address it. (We have tools for that coming soon in another blog.)
Did they really say that?
It’s not personal. Many of us are quick to take things personally. For example, if your employee doesn’t follow your instructions, do you assume they’re being defiant? If your partner isn’t affectionate for a day, do you assume they don’t care about you?
The truth is that most of the time it’s not about you. Everyone has their own issues to deal with. The odds are excellent that you’re not the cause of someone else’s mood or behavior.
Gratitude is an important tool
Give thanks in all things. Everyone has things in their life that are worthy of gratitude. What are you grateful for?
When things seem the most challenging, it’s a perfect time to list off the things for which you are the most grateful.
If you think about these things, you’ll feel better. This is one of the best habits anyone can create.
Keep it simple
Only do one thing at a time. Attempting to multi-task is stressful. It’s also not productive to rapidly switch back and forth between multiple tasks.
For example, when you’re driving your car, just drive your car. Don’t try to drive, text, and eat breakfast at the same time. It’s not efficient, and definitely not safe.
Minimize the noise in your life. Audible sounds, visual clutter, and the other extra items in your life that you really have no need for all clutter up your mind as well as your environment.
Having too much stuff in your life will make you miserable. Keep the most important items and get rid of the rest.
There are many more tools to choose from, but pick one or more of these to start. Developing these habits will make your life feel more calm and serene. There’s a tremendous benefit to reducing the stress in your life. You’ll be healthier and enjoy your life more.
Keep on keeping on
After you’ve tried a few of these habits on for size decide what works for you and what doesn’t. Discard the ones that don’t and then start to add more as the initial ones become ingrained.
Your serenity may have been disrupted by the stress you’ve been experiencing lately – and that is nothing to feel guilty about or ashamed of. Life is what it is. Keep in mind that the ways you experience stress are also most likely habits you’ve developed over the years. Habits can be changed. Start today to take control of your life and create habits that serve you well.
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Did you find a few more ideas of your own? If so, I’d love to hear about them in the comments, and as always please reach out with your thoughts.
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