Living a peaceful life is one of my main priorities. It applies to everything I do whether it is my personal life or my business. When it comes to my business, my services include helping you find calm amidst your chaos, taking back your control, and breaking through the barriers to help you find your purpose and find your joy.
Speaking of chaos, do you ever have those little things that get on your nerves? You know – certain situations, or people, that bring out, let’s call it, your less attractive qualities.
Maybe it’s that barking dog at 6:00 a.m. on the one day you wanted to sleep in, or maybe it’s that checkout person who takes so long and needs to call for help on your busiest day ever. Maybe it’s that look you get from your friend whenever you talk about wanting to change.
Whatever it is, it’s a trigger reaction that brings out the worst – a good friend may even tell you that you are over-reacting.
Emotional triggers are caused by past negative experiences, and when we are in a similar situation – whether we recognize it or not, they can stir up some strong, and undesirable emotions.
The best way to deal with triggers is to get to the root of why they affect you the way they do. That can take real effort, time, and guidance. But until you get to that point, I want to offer you a simple exercise that can help get you through.
As soon as you notice that you are emotionally reacting, remember the word PEACE. This is an acronym for pause, escape, accept, center, and exchange. Let’s look at each one a bit more.
Pause – take a deep breath, let your breath get you through the initial reaction
Escape – detach yourself from the situation for a moment, think of something else. Be prepared with a key phrase, silly story, or song for times like this (I use Serenity Now for any Seinfeld fans out there.)
Accept – recognize that this is a trigger, it’s temporary, and you can get through it
Center – focus back on your breath, let your exhales get a little longer than your inhales, feel the calming from the breath.
Exchange – now that it’s over, swap the negative thought for a new, positive one – this forces you to go that extra step and not carry the earlier negativity with you.
So, I mentioned earlier, that the best way to deal with triggers is to get to their root. That’s where I can help. If you’d like to chat, please feel free to connect. We can set up a call to get to know a bit about each other and see if working together is a good fit. If not, I will gladly help you find other options.
Find your purpose – find your joy!
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Did you find a few more ideas of your own? If so, I’d love to hear about them in the comments, and as always please reach out with your thoughts.