It may sound strange, but the one person you’ll always have in your life is you. In order to have an existence that’s peaceful yet exciting and fulfilling, it’s important for you to believe in yourself.
When you believe in yourself, you know that you have the ability to handle anything that life throws your way. You recognize that although things may be tough, you have what it takes and you’ll get through it.
If that little voice deep inside you asks, “But what if I’m not sure that I can handle something?” don’t listen! You have everything you need inside of you already. If you’re still unsure, here are some tips for boosting your self-confidence and helping you to recognize and acknowledge your abilities.
Know yourself. Who are you? How would you describe yourself to someone who doesn’t know you? Write down a description of you. “[Your name] is a person who __________.” Keep writing what you know about yourself. List out the strengths, the good things and what you’ve heard others say about you. When you’re finished, read it. Does it give a clear description of who you are?
Develop a real understanding for how you react in certain situations. For example, if someone tells you he’s angry about something you did, how do you respond? When people ask for help, what do you do? Noticing the behaviors you perform whenever challenging situations occur will help you see your capabilities.
Be comfortable with your own feelings. Recognize what you’re feeling and label it-is it sadness you feel when you see your little girls growing up or is it pride? It’s okay to shed a tear over a poignant commercial or a sad or touching movie. Know that your feelings are not right or wrong, they just are – and that’s okay.
Recognize your strengths. Although most of us can identify our weak areas right off the bat, it’s sometimes a challenge to see our strong points. Recognizing the areas of life in which you do really well is a great confidence-booster. If you’re not sure, then think about compliments you’ve received. What strengths do others see in you?
Remind yourself you’ve made it through some challenging episodes in life and you’re still here. When you see what you’ve risen above, it helps you to realize that you can get through the tough times. You can probably easily recount all the difficult phases you’ve gone through in life. Yet here you are, surviving – even thriving. Be inspired by the initiative, personal strength, and courage you’ve shown so far in life. Say to yourself: “If I did that, then I can achieve even more.”
For example, maybe you made your way through college or even graduate school while working full-time and taking care of a family. That’s quite a feat. It must have been a challenging time for you. Yet somehow, you did it. That’s pretty incredible. Acknowledge it.
Get comfortable admitting you made a mistake. This suggestion just might be the most important one so far. If you can’t admit to yourself and others on a regular basis that you’ve made a mistake, the fact is that you’ll have difficulty believing in yourself. Why? Because in order to believe in yourself, you must be real with yourself and others. Otherwise, you’ll see that you’re not even honest with yourself and your confidence will lag. It’s okay to be wrong. Let’s face it-most of us are wrong at least once a day. The easiest way to solve an issue or figure out a conundrum is to acknowledge, “I did something wrong.”
If you recognize and acknowledge your errors, you’re very wise because you obviously know you can’t correct a mistake unless you see the mistake in the first place. If you’re not already doing it, start openly and honestly acknowledging errors. That way, you can fix them. Admitting and fixing your mistakes will also help you see your ability to handle anything that comes your way.
When you believe in yourself, your life is so much easier. Believing in yourself brings with it a certain quiet confidence. Thoughtfully consider the above points and strengthen your resolve to believe in the one person you’ll always have – you.
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